⁠What most of us long to hear in a moment of relationship stress is not agreement exactly, but the sense that someone can see where we are coming from. Therapists repeat this for good reason. Few phrases in English do as much work as I hear you. ⁠ ⁠ When a partner says something critical, the natural response is to defend ourselves, to insist they have got it wrong. Saying I hear you instead, even without fully agreeing, is a genuinely intimate thing to offer someone. It points to what actually wrecks relationships more than almost anything else, defensiveness, the constant need to be right regardless of the cost. Being able to say I hear you, I know I can be difficult, or maybe I misunderstood something, does more for a relationship than most grand gestures ever will.⁠ ⁠💥💯✨️ #education #knowthyself #selflove #funfacts